Karwa Chauth

The fast of Karwa Chauth is of particular importance to all Hindu married women in India. They believe that the festival ensures prosperity, longevity, and overal well-being of their husbands.

The origin of this festival was based on a very sweet and noble idea. Though this idea has lost its true sense as today the whole outlook of this festival has changed.
In the ancient time, girls used to get married at a very early stage, and had to go and live with their in-laws in other villages. After marriage, if she faces any problem with her in-laws or her husband, she would have no one to talk to or seek support from. There used to be no telephones, buses and trains long ago. Her own parents and relatives would be quite far and unreachable. Thus the custom started that, at the time of marriage, when bride would reach her in-laws, she would befriend another woman there who would be her friend or sister for life. It would be like god-friends or god-sisters. Their friendship would be sanctified through a small Hindu ceremony right during the marriage.
Once the bride and this woman had become god-friends or god-sisters, they would remain so all their lives and recognize the relation as such. They would also treat each other like real sisters.
Later in life, if she faces any difficulty related to her husband or in-laws, she would be able to confidently talk or seek help from each other. Thus, Karwa Chauth was started to as a festival to celebrate this relationship between the once-brides and their god-friends (god-sisters). Fasting and praying for husband came later and is secondary. It was probably added, along with other mythical tales, to enhance the festival. The husband would always be associated with this festival, because the day of starting this holy friendship between two god-sisters was essentially the day of bride's marriage to him. Thus, praying and fasting for him by his wife during a celebration of her relationship with the god-friend would be quite logical.
Hence, the festival of Karwa Chauth was to renew and celebrate the relationship between god-friends (god-sisters). It had a tremendous social and cultural significance when world was not having the way to communicate and move around easily.

Festivities

Given the fact that India is a democratic country with people of many religions staying together, there is a string of festivals that follow one after the other. All year through.

October onwards, the number of festivals are the maximum. Be it Navratras, Dushera, Ramadan, Diwali, Eid, Guru Nanak Jayanti, Christmas... And more. Navratras just ended. Dushera was celebrated with much pomp. Karva chauth is round the corner. And so is Diwali. So much fun!

Diwali is a festival of lights in which the diyas are filled with oil/clarified butter and lighted. This signifies the triumph of good over evil. I am eagerly looking forward for Diwali this year because it'll be my first Diwali in my own home. Decorations, light, prayers...

Yaaron, dosti badi hi haseen hai, yeh na ho toh kya phir bolo yeh zindagi hai..

Koi toh ho raazdaar, begaraz tera ho yaar.. Koi toh ho raazdaar...

Yaaron, mohabbat badi hi bandagi hai, yeh na ho toh kya phir bolo yeh zindagi hai..

Koi toh dilbar ho yaar, jisko tujhse ho pyaar.. Koi toh dilbar ho yaar....

Teri har ek buraai pe daante woh dost.. Ghum ki ho dhoop, toh saaya bane woh dost..

Naache bhi woh teri khushi main..

The words of these song, by an amazing Indian singer KK, bring out the essence of friendship & love. Reminds me of some nice memories.

August 29, 1958

August 29, 1958. A legend was born.

Michael Jackson has been the greatest entertainers that our generation has seen. A true legend. Very humble, soft spoken, modest, amazing dancer, and a gifted singer are some of the many qualities that would define Michael.

Take any song & you will find how he has so creatively presented an important topic through his music and short films. Take example of 'Man in the Mirror' (gonna make a change/for once in my life/gonna feel real good/gonna make a difference/gonna make it right/I'm starting with the man in the mirror/I'm asking to change his way/And no messgae could have been any clearer/If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself & make the change) - Every person needs to make a change himself/herself. And that's how a difference is made. Michael's songs have a meaning.

Michael's songs have a lot of entertainment. 'Rock With You', 'Blame it on the Boogie', 'Who's Loving You', 'Invinsible', ... The list would go on.

My love for Michael Jackson as a singer & dancer, and Michael as a person, began way back in 1992. That was around the time when his new album 'Dangerous' had released. And I must, very sincerely, thank one of my friends' who mentioned that Michael Jackson's new album Dangerous is amazing and a must hear. And yes, I did go ahead and buy 'Dangerous'. My first Michael Jackson music cassette. And then began the love for him. It's been 18 years since this all started. And my love for him grows - even when he's not around. He's inspired me to do things that I may or may not have thought of doing otherwise. My love for dance grew stronger. My love for music grew stronger. My want to do and give to people less fortunate than me, grew stronger because of him.

People who did/said bad things for Michael - wanted two things through him. 1- Money. 2- Cheap Publicity. And they got both. Michael gave them money to stop the torture he was going through. And this torture nearly killed his creativity. What these people didn't know & didn't understand that this way to earn money & getting cheap publicity is not the right way. What you earn (money or character) should be because of what you would do.

Even if he is not here with us in a physical form, I know he is there somewhere. And happy.

Reading...

Well, I've been away from my blog for over a month now. Didn't have much to share lately.

What's new at my end? Hmmm, lots. One of the things is that I completed reading 'Shantaram', a novel by Gregory David Roberts. Finally. This book took quite some time to complete - mostly because of the reason that it was very slow in the beginning & at times in between. There were characters who were explained in an entire chapter, same things repeated at times, and so on. A good writing, which wasn't very well edited. However, by the time I ended reading this book, I fell in love with the characters - be it Linbaba, Khaderbhai, Abdullah, Prabhakar, or Kano the bear for that matter. Writing a short review of the book - if anyone is interested in reading this book.

Also, since I was aware of the fact that there was a movie being planned on this book, with Johnny Depp playing the lead of Shantaram and Amitabh Bachchan playing Abdel Khader Khan, I was visualizing Johnny Depp and Amitabh Bachchan while reading the book.

This book is worth a read - at times it is slow - but overall, it's a good read.

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Shantaram - a novel written by Gregory David Roberts, a convicted Australian bank robber and heroin addict who escaped from Pentridge Prison and fled to India where he lived for 10 years. This book is believed by some to be based on real events; however, the story and its incidents are largely fictional.

This novel is influenced by real events in the life of the author. In 1978, Roberts was sentenced to nineteen years' imprisonment in Australia after being convicted of a series of armed robberies, which he had committed to feed a heroin addiction after his marriage ended and he lost his daughter. In 1980, he escaped from the prison in broad daylight, thereby becoming one of Australia's most wanted men.

The protagonist arrives in Bombay (now Mumbai) carrying a false passport in the name of Lindsay Ford. Mumbai was only a stopover, but he decides to stay in the city. Lin meets a guide - Prabaker - who soon becomes his best friend. When Lin goes to Prabhakar's village, Lin gets his name 'Shantaram' (meaning Man of God's Peace). On getting robbed while returning to Mumbai, Lin is forced to live in the slums, giving him shelter from the authorities and free rent in Mumbai, where he sets up a free health clinic. During his stay, he learns much of the local culture, including learning Marathi, Mumbai's local language.

This novel describes a number of foreigners too - Karla, Didier, Ulla, and so on. Lin falls in love with Karla, befriends local artists, and is recruited by the Mumbai underworld for various criminal operations. Lin eventually lands in Bombay's Arthur Road Prison; however, Lin is eventually released thanks to the protection of Afghani mafia don "Abdel Khader Khan". Eventually, Lin works in black market currency exchange and passport forgery. Lin later goes to Afghanistan to smuggle weapons for mujahideen freedom fighters in Afghanistan. And it is in Afghanistan that he gets to know the various secrets from Khan and falls into depression after he returns. When his mentor Khan is killed, Lin decides that he must fight for what he believes is right, and build an honest life.

Their is a flow in the way Roberts has written this book. The beginning of the book is a bit slow, only picking up momentum as we progress. There were few chapters that had descripton of various characters in detail, which I feel at times wasn't required in such detail.

Last week, Metro Rail connected Delhi with Gurgaon. It is an elevated Metro line on Mehrauli-Gurgaon (MG) Road that connects Delhi with Gurgaon. Before the services began last week, commuting to Gurgaon from MG Road was faster as compared to the NH8 route. Now, even the MG Road has traffic jams. What took 35-40 minutes in peak hours for me to reach from my home to Gurgaon, it has started taking me, on an average, 50-60 minutes to reach Gurgaon. I just hope when the entire work is over, the traffic situation gets better and there are lesser traffic jams.

What is concerning is that in the name of development, there are so many trees that have been cut. And the number of trees that have been cut are high! One day I see few trees & the other day, most of those trees are gone. Cut. Killed. It's kind of sad what we all are doing to our environment in the name of development. Trees are cut, but no new sapling is sown.
What is sad that people don't understand that it is every person's responsibility to take care of the environment. Why say everytime, "It's the Government who'll do everything. It's them who'll do it." Why only the Government? And who are 'them'? It has to begin with "I". It's us who have to bring a change, as a collaborative effort.

And change is difficult. Just because people have to move out of their comfort zone. However, is it impossible? NO. Is it difficult? YES. Is it doable? YES, YES.

Do what you love; Love what you do.

I'm back again. It's another Monday morning and yet again a bit difficult to get back to the groove. Very difficult. I 'need' to though.

Over the past few weeks, or the past few months, I've been thinking whether I really love & enjoy the nature of work I'm into. Or even like it. The answer is No. The only concern area is that I need to continue to do things I don't like, as it's need of the hour. Overburdened with financial responsibility. Only if things would have been simpler. And easier.

I'm always for the fact that "Do what you love & love what you do" - specifically in this order. For this, the foremost thing to do is to find out what exactly is your passion. Do some digging in your innermost thoughts, feelings... If you find it difficult, try taking couselling to find out. Try out the top few things that come to your mind - see what interests you the most. And then simply 'do what you love & love what you do.'

I wish I could do something related to music, dance, art, gymnastics, or history. I know I would have been very very good at one of the above fields. However, it didn't happen. I remember being part of the music & dance classes in my school. I was good at drawing & sketching. I was pretty okay at gymnastics and was part of the gymnastics team at various school functions. When I passed out from school, I had interest in history - I still do - and wanted to be a historian/archaeologist. I was discouraged saying there isn't much money in these fields.

I'm now planning to do something related to art/creative fields. I have to. Watch out world - here I arrive! :-)