Friday, May 25, 2012

Daughters

In India, I've seen that there is a definite difference between a daughter and a daughter-in-law. No matter what anyone says, a daughter-in-law is never regarded a daughter. A daughter leaves her home and comes to a new home. And still, she is hardly accepted as a daughter. And it is a very sad situation.

I am a daughter. And a happy one for my parents.

And I'll wait for a daughter-in-law to be part of my life. To make her a daughter & pamper her with all the daughter love.

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Children as teachers

Hey there!

My child is growing, and so am I with him. He is teaching me so much that I find it amazing how such a small child can be such a lovely 'guru' or a teacher.

The first time I learnt from him was when he was as small as a 3-month old child. He had got his shot of DTaP and BCG, the after effect of which is fever. And fever he had that particular night. He didn't even sleep the entire night. I was all sad, and feeling irritable as to why my child has to go through such pain. He was miserable with around 101 degree fever - and still he was smiling at me every now and then through the night! It was as if he was telling me, "Mom, don't be sad - I'll be ok." He was smiling in what was his adverse situation and in turn I was smiling with him. That was what was his first teaching to me - smile no matter what & this too shall pass.

And since then, there have been more things I am learning from him - every single day. And I'm sure I'll continue to learn as each day progresses.

Still old habits die hard. I do get angry at times & badly. There are reasons - something happened, someone said something, I do something I don't want to do... The list would go on. For example, today I got angry at my small child just because he wasn't taking his afternoon nap & I was too tired! I took out my anger at him by shouting at him! DUH at me. And now I feel miserable!!
What I need to understand is that I get angry because of myself. Not because of the situations or people around me. I need to stop the situations and people to affect me in a way that'll make me lose my temper.

Love you, my child. And thanks for being my 'guru.'
Children can be fabulous & creative teachers - all I can say is that listen to & learn from them.

Lots of L.O.V.E.